Here’s my opening speech at 29th April meeting.
Let’s do a quick survey, among the members of this club, including those absent today, whose public speaking style would you like to adopt, and what is it about the style that you like about?
Let me write down your reasons.
Most of you have a member in mind, whose style that you’d like to adopt.
A Toastmaster told me he’s not trying to be as good as Jun and the rest, he just aims to speak what he wants to say comfortably.
He’s right in one sense – he wants to be comfortable. But he’s not exactly correct, in my opinion, to use jun and others as benchmark.
I used to watch a lot of Hong Kong dramas and they were always peppered with punchy lines. One of the lines that has stuck with me is “If you want others to be like you, unless there were two of you”. However, not even twins are totally identical, so it’s pointless for us to take on another person’s style because we’ll never be like them or even beat him at it.
For me, it’s myself. I’m not narcissistic. In fact, I’m far from it, one of my greatest weaknesses is the lack of self confidence.
Yet I would like to be myself, find my own style, one that I play to my strengths and be comfortable with.
Therefore, I would suggest that, instead of trying to emulate that member, or adopt his/her style, think of the strengths or traits of his or her style and tweak them to suit your personality and abilities.
So instead of saying you would like to be like Pradeep or Jun, you might say, I’d like to be polished, confident, structured.
My message this afternoon is:
Be yourself. Have a style that plays to your strengths and that you’re comfortable with.